Are you free Mrs Slocum?

09/11/2013 22:15
by Former Site Admin

There is some confusion over the various "Marital Status" options, and I think its time to do a clean-up. Yep, I read that thread about the topic, and have ummmmed and aaaaahed for a few days.:~

There are currently 4 versions of "single", which is a bit much๐Ÿ˜ฎ, and only one "attached" option. I am thinking of merging them all down to two:
"Single / Divorced / Free Agent" and
"In Relationship / Attached / Married"
What do you think?

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Blue John 09/11/2013 22:15

Bimble....here it is ๐Ÿ™‚

preggy47(Andy) 20/10/2013 10:01

Sarah68 (Sarah): are you sure it would come with one๐Ÿ˜‹๐Ÿ™‚๐Ÿ™‚๐Ÿ™‚

Pear Drop (Sarah) 20/10/2013 09:51

preggy47(Andy): The problem with a female order Andy is that the instruction manual would weigh more than the package ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€

colinjoseph 19/10/2013 19:02

I once saw a birthday card which I sent to the wife of a friend of mine, which suggested pyramid male order. A woman passes her partner on to two other women, in return she gets four men from other members. It said "do not break the chain, if you do, will get your original partner back"!๐Ÿ˜€

Morningdawn 19/10/2013 17:55

๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€
Nice idea
Oops thinking of the wrong sort of female order,
Sorry will let you have a real one ๐Ÿ˜€

preggy47(Andy) 19/10/2013 17:34

or just in case something that goes wrong๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€

Morningdawn 19/10/2013 17:26

๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€
In case of a puncture

preggy47(Andy) 19/10/2013 17:21

This should work both ways female order.
what about coming with a repair kit.๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€

Morningdawn 19/10/2013 17:15

or an exchange ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€

preggy47(Andy) 19/10/2013 17:13

with a money back guarantee๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€

Morningdawn 19/10/2013 17:10

๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€,
28 day return policy if not satisfied ๐Ÿ˜€

preggy47(Andy) 19/10/2013 17:06

or by airmale๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€

preggy47(Andy) 19/10/2013 17:05

Sarah68 (Sarah): have a great night.
would it be great if all relationships came with a returns sticker.๐Ÿ™‚๐Ÿ™‚

Morningdawn 19/10/2013 17:02

Lucky you Sarah, have fun ๐Ÿ™‚

Pear Drop (Sarah) 19/10/2013 16:59

And can we return it free of charge if we are not satisfied? ๐Ÿ™‚
Off to see Bill Bailey now, v excited ๐Ÿ™‚๐Ÿ™‚๐Ÿ™‚๐Ÿ™‚

Morningdawn 19/10/2013 16:59

๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€, in a male van

preggy47(Andy) 19/10/2013 16:55

will the maleman bring it.๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€

Morningdawn 19/10/2013 16:52

๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€

preggy47(Andy) 19/10/2013 16:44

๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€morningdawn: how do they arrive in the male(mail)๐Ÿ˜ˆ๐Ÿ˜ˆ

Morningdawn 19/10/2013 16:38

preggy47(Andy): There is an option for us to browse profiles... male order catalogue ???
๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€

preggy47(Andy) 19/10/2013 16:12

suesingularity: looking around sounds like a shopping trip๐Ÿ˜ˆ๐Ÿ˜ˆ๐Ÿ˜ˆ

preggy47(Andy) 17/10/2013 17:34

that should say certain I have a definite vacancy๐Ÿ˜ˆ๐Ÿ˜ˆ๐Ÿ˜ˆ

preggy47(Andy) 17/10/2013 17:33

im certainly have a definite vacancy๐Ÿ™‚๐Ÿ™‚

Philtheetiler 17/10/2013 16:46

Quite possible to be both then !๐Ÿ™‚

Pear Drop (Sarah) 17/10/2013 16:27

I'd love to see the proportion of "engaged" members to "vacant" members, I suspect a lot of us are fairly vacant ๐Ÿ˜€

The Mind is Willing 17/10/2013 16:01

I think these comments just prove that "age" means nothing as we're all acting like 12 again! ๐Ÿ˜ˆ๐Ÿ˜ˆ๐Ÿ˜ˆ
Love it! ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜€

Pear Drop (Sarah) 17/10/2013 09:35

๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€

preggy47(Andy) 17/10/2013 07:48

or we could do like on toilet doors engaged or vacant??๐Ÿ™‚๐Ÿ™‚

milvus 16/10/2013 19:02

unhinged for me then! ๐Ÿ˜€

Blueray 16/10/2013 19:00

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MadMag 16/10/2013 18:48

Oh I really fancy you kiss kiss slob slob, what's that smell? oh don't worry about that, it's just my ex bricked up behind the kitchen wall. ๐Ÿ˜‹

Blueray 16/10/2013 18:35

What a palaver - how funny!
My question is, does the detail really matter? Surely those looking for a relationship just need to know whether the person they like is available or not?
I personally wouldn't care too much why someone is "available". We're all of an age where we have history and the detail as to why can be filled in at a later date, when getting getting to know each other.

preggy47(Andy) 16/10/2013 17:12

Site Admin: I think your last list is the one to go with.
Detached, semi detached and unattached sounds like a housing estate๐Ÿ™‚๐Ÿ™‚

MadMag 16/10/2013 14:46

There/Not all there
Gay/sad
Happily unmarried/unhappily single
going round the twist
project manager required
apply within
at your own peril ๐Ÿ˜ˆ๐Ÿ˜ˆ

Morningdawn 16/10/2013 14:33

What about :
With or without
Unhappily married or happily single
Hinged or unhinged ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€

MadMag 16/10/2013 13:15

My wife doesn't understand me, I want my just desserts!

Morningdawn 16/10/2013 12:38

I wouldnt have minded being able to select the option 'on my bloody own again' ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜€

Former Site Admin 16/10/2013 10:09

Wow, this is getting complicated.๐Ÿ˜‹

MadMag: I see your problem. Maybe I need "Single / Divorced / Separated / Widowed / New Patio" ๐Ÿ˜€

colinjoseph: for those who enter "single" when they aren't I am working on a lie detector. It sends 2000 volts through their keyboard. I think the "dating communication welcome/not" is handled by the dating/friendship question.

catwalker: I agree with the finding out more in conversation comment. Its too easy to judge from a selfie photo and some hastily written text. On a site like this people are 2 dimensional. The three dimensional version is much more interesting.

landranger68 16/10/2013 08:40

Quite correct MM,but what of those who wish to play the field,could it be semi detached๐Ÿ˜€

Forever lost 16/10/2013 07:34

You don't want to do that Love you'll make a right mess of the sheets lol๐Ÿ™‚

colinjoseph 16/10/2013 01:08

Ah TMIW, but I am older than you, that's the point.

The Mind is Willing 16/10/2013 00:00

Well thanks for that colinjoseph - single and a failure! I should sleep well tonight if I haven't already slit my wrists! :~โ˜น

Former Site Admin 16/10/2013 00:00

OK. Too many comments to respond to all, but I think the overall feeling seems to be "the simpler the better" with a couple of exceptions.

At some point in the not too distant I'll go with:
"Single / Widowed / Divorced / Separated"
"In Relationship / Attached / Married"

Jacktherussell is right. Time to just do it!

lizzied 15/10/2013 23:37

I go with Cat on this one- attached or unattached is plenty of information to be going on with. There are then no preconceptions or stigmas, just the knowledge that you're not treading on anyones toes and about to get a visit from an axe wielding ex...... or not ex!!!!!!

colinjoseph 15/10/2013 23:33

sorry MM, I was accidentally omitting it from my text at the same time you were typing!๐Ÿ˜‰

colinjoseph 15/10/2013 23:31

Now, the information I really want to know before contacting someone, if we were concise, is: Dating communication Welcome/Not welcome.
However, I am sure that the women would say that depends who it is from!
so, to summarise my opinion. Simplified: just dating contact welcome or not. Perhaps with the *option* to add a description if they wish {single, married, divorced, separated etc}
Hope this helps.๐Ÿ˜€

MadMag 15/10/2013 23:31

And don't forget us widowed folk, it's not our fault we've been left alone. ( unless someone has secretly murdered their other half )

colinjoseph 15/10/2013 23:23

First, it's nice to be asked for our opinion SA.
Secondly, there is a difference between Divorced and Single; some people even say "I am Single again"! well, sorry. You can't be single again, only Divorced, which gives more information on a person's background. For me being Single at my age is far worse than Divorced because it marks me as a failure. Do we want that [useful] information on site? I would certainly like to know before contacting someone. Separated is even more useful because it warns me that someone else may still be arround.
I have found women [I don't chat up men!] on this site who enter single/unattached, but then turn out to have a partner. Wish I had known. continued

The Mind is Willing 15/10/2013 23:01

Jacktherussell : I had hoped that Site Admin could have managed to put all our confusion to rest but it's interesting to read other peoples views on the matter even if it doesn't answer the question.:~ Apparently "it's good to talk"! ๐Ÿ˜ˆ๐Ÿ˜ˆ

The Mind is Willing 15/10/2013 22:58

Just: ๐Ÿ˜ˆ๐Ÿ˜ˆ๐Ÿ˜ˆ I think we should use that one Just!

Jacktherussell 15/10/2013 22:29

Is it only me with de ja vu? This discussion has gone on far to long! Unfortuanately I fear it will never be resolved. To cause more confusion I'll throw my hat(but want it back)into the ring. Dating only. Dating and friendships. Friendships only. If anyone is found to be using the site for cheating purposes whilst attached I suggest a public flogging followed by tar and feathers.

The Mind is Willing 15/10/2013 21:24

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The Mind is Willing 15/10/2013 20:57

unattached is better than detached CW! ๐Ÿ˜ˆ๐Ÿ˜ˆ๐Ÿ˜ˆ
Everything we really like is bad for us FL apart from this walking lark. The amount of laughter it creates keeps stomach muscles toned and endorphins raised. Long may it continue! ๐Ÿ˜ˆ๐Ÿ˜ˆ

Forever lost 15/10/2013 19:56

You do know its bad for you CW

davem 15/10/2013 19:47

Nice and clear cat...I like it......what are you now...lol

The Mind is Willing 15/10/2013 19:12

I always knew life was complicated! :~๐Ÿ˜€

Former Site Admin 15/10/2013 19:10

Just to avoid confusion - I am suggesting just TWO catchall groups, not six split into 3 single and 3 attached versions.

Thus, do you want the ability to narrowly define yourself or is a catchall OK.

Also: Don't forget that this will simplify searching as you just select one or the other ...

Pear Drop (Sarah) 15/10/2013 18:55

Yep, agree with preggy47, I don't think having a few versions of singleness is a problem as long as we all understand what they mean, it's the fact that "free agent" is so open to different interpretations that isn't so good. But TMIW also made me think about "widowed", haven't given it much thought before, but I think if I was in that situation then I wouldn't want to describe myself as just "single". So I reckon, ditch "free agent" and add "widowed".

Bramble 15/10/2013 18:28

Does this make Site Admin Captain Peacock? ๐Ÿ˜‹

I agree with preggy(47). I also feel if you were to use this as a dating site, whether someone is separated or divorced is quite different.

Blueray 15/10/2013 18:13

I too agree with preggy47. Just don't like the term "free agent" as it's too vague.

preggy47(Andy) 15/10/2013 17:24

ditch free agent and replace with separated me thinks.๐Ÿ™‚

The Mind is Willing 15/10/2013 16:56

But what does "free agent" mean Site Admin??? In that group wouldn't Single/Divorced/Widowed be more suitable?